I don’t think we can plan for and be prepared for every ending and new beginning in our lives but some changes, like leaving home to go flatting or to university, can definitely be prepared for – and very much looked forward to. Saying goodbye to our parents, friends and siblings as we head off on the adventure of university, a new job or travel is part of growing up and growing away from our parents - finding our own way in the world.
Finding out that you have an identity all of your own separate from others can be a confusing yet exciting time. It’s a time of finding out who you are, testing boundaries, maturing, making choices that affect your career, friendships, and your life plan. Bit of a minefield at times especially when those choices conflict with other people and their hopes and dreams for you. For a lot of us, we don’t think about who we are until we find ourselves in a state of confusion through the closing of one door and looking for the next door to open.
But endings and beginnings are not a time to be shied away from or feared but a time to be embraced. Moving into the new phase or next chapter of your life will allow you to find out things about yourself that you didn’t know before. It will test you, strengthen you, challenge you and help shape the beliefs you want to hold and let go of other beliefs that no longer serve you or where you are in this new chapter.
A Course In Miracles says that the concept of ‘self’ will change with learning and that change is reflected in our relationships – they mature or they end or they aren’t as intense as they used to be, or maybe they become more intense.
Every time there’s a shift there is some confusion but we come to recognise that we are no longer victims of the world we see and we learn that we are creating what we experience. This is a powerful place – being able to create your experiences and without the self awareness of what is going on at the time, we tend to let life live us rather than us living life.
Go well with any endings and beginnings in your life and know that they are natural; they are a mark of living a large life rather than a small one where things never change or move forward.
Hi, I'm Anna Bradbury and I'm an experienced Life Coach and member of ICF (International Coach Federation). I love helping people and couples realise their goals and dreams. With your hard work and focus, my guidance, and proven Life Coaching techniques, you can achieve all you desire.