Sometimes, you are so deep in the trenches that you can't even see the mess you are in until it is too late. Human beings have the tendency to idealise the things that they want. Studies have shown that being in "love" actually makes your lover seem more attractive, intelligent and desirable than they really are.
What are some signs that it is time to leave your relationship?
1.) Physical abuse – if this is present in your relationship, from EITHER partner, it’s time to go.
2.) Addictions – if your partner has an addiction and refuses seek help for it, stop rescuing and save yourself.
3.) Cheating – you or them – infidelity does not give a relationship a foundation of trust.
4.) You have grown apart – if this is happening, be truthful with your partner. If neither of you wants to find a way to grow together again, there’s no point in continuing.
5.) Disrespect - someone mistreating their partner through constant verbal abuse, mind games and degradation. Get out now!
6.) Communication – vital to any relationship and if it’s not happening, get help. If it’s beyond that, do yourself a favour and move on.
7.) It’s unbalanced - if you are treating them like royalty while they leave you feeling like a worthless peasant, then it's time for you to get going.
8.) Ego-based - if you are in a relationship where you have realised that you somehow have let your ego fool you into dating someone who you would never date, whether it's because you're lonely or to feed your ego, then it's definitely time to re-evaluate.
9.) It’s only physical - if the only thing you have going in your relationship is physical attraction and sex, eventually it will come to an end.
10.) It’s always a drama - if your relationship is a soap opera and you're not an actor, then it it's time to get the hell out of it. End of story.
These are guidelines only and if you are with someone who is willing to get help – either alone or as a couple – then go for it! Otherwise, careful consideration is needed about moving on to a life and a partner that is better suited to a healthy relationship. If you feel you need to become healthier yourself, don’t delay. Life is too short to not enjoy the best there is.
Hi, I'm Anna Bradbury and I'm an experienced Life Coach and member of ICF (International Coach Federation). I love helping people and couples realise their goals and dreams. With your hard work and focus, my guidance, and proven Life Coaching techniques, you can achieve all you desire.