Couple coaching vs couple counselling
Coaching is often confused with counselling as counselling has been around for a longer. Both disciplines are rooted in the psychological disciplines of the great masters such as Sigmund Freud, Erikson etc and practices such as NLP. Here is a brief overview of counselling, coaching and the differences between couple coaching and counselling.
Counselling looks at where the issues come from and what's lurking about in that place (deep, often heavy – however sometimes necessary for some people)
Coaching looks at the fact that this is how you are so where to from here? (positive and light)The practice of Life Coaching arose out of athletic coaching in sports and is broadly defined as a collaborative process of helping someone improve performance or satisfaction in some aspect of their lives.
In contrast with psychological counselling or therapy, which is often focused on pathology rooted in past experiences or flawed thinking processes (cognition), Life Coaching is focused more on the here and now by working towards improving the present as well providing guidance and tools for achieving future goals in a client’s professional, relationship, creative or even spiritual aspects of life.
Essentially, counselling clients are looking to heal; coaching clients are looking to get results (according to whatever goals they set); therapy clients want to understand why they feel what they feel; coaching clients want to take action to change their lives.
Couple coaching is quite distinct from couple counselling in these ways:
· Couple counselling will focus on the individuals and what they are doing wrong that creates the current conflict in their relationship and will address those issues.
· Couple coaching doesn’t focus on individuals but coaches the relationship itself. The couple are asked to formulate what type of relationship they want and the coaching will guide them towards achieving this.
· Couple counselling will look at the past and what each person did in certain situations, what was said and done in each situation that caused conflict. Then the counsellor will advise on changes in behaviour etc and give couples tasks to perform to institute that change.
· Couple coaching starts with a blank slate – what happened in the past stays in the past.
· Couple counselling allows each partner to list the ‘sins’ of the other partner.
· Couple coaching won’t allow partners to list each other’s ‘sins’ but will encourage each one to become aware of and take individual responsibility for their behaviour, attitudes and beliefs that are causing harm to the relationship. Then each person will identify what they need to do/change to create a healthy relationship.
· A couple counsellor will give advice.
· A couple coach will not give advice although suggestions can be made.
· Couple counselling quite often involves role plays.
· Couple coaching has no role playing.
Couple coaching creates a safe environment where even the most reluctant partner will feel that self-empowerment is possible and not there to be beaten into submission to change their errant ways. In this safe place both partners can feel confident that they can look at what is causing conflict in their relationship and how that can be turned around to build the relationship they always wanted … but didn’t know how to.
Hi, I'm Anna Bradbury and I'm an experienced Life Coach and member of ICF (International Coach Federation). I love helping people and couples realise their goals and dreams. With your hard work and focus, my guidance, and proven Life Coaching techniques, you can achieve all you desire.